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It is an absolutely beautiful day.  The sun is shining and I hear birds singing. There is a little breeze blowing and the temperature is probably in the low 70’s.  I can see some fabulous flowers blooming from my window.  Who could ask for anything more!

Oh, I am so very grateful that my husband and I each have work that we like and therefore, the money to put food on the table, a roof over our heads and the transportation that we need.  But, more importantly, it allows for me to enjoy this glorious day.  It does matter if you take the time to look around and take in all of the beauty that you can see.  It gives you such a feeling of peace and love and a real appreciation of everything that is just sitting there for you to enjoy.  And it puts you into a frame of mind that allows you to want to share your happiness and gratefulness with others.

I think that is why I am so enjoying my time writing these blogs and sharing my experiences with others.  My realization has been that we all have hard times and tough things with which to deal in our lives.  If you enjoy each day and appreciate all that it gives to you, it doesn’t take long to realize that all of the good things far outweigh the bad or hard times – if that is what you choose for yourself.

By your own choice, you have the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life.  When you have a problem with which to deal, you can address it, choose a course of action and follow that course.  You can put your energy into overcoming the tough things that come your way and you can muster the strength in order to fight the fight.  But, you also can choose to wallow in self-pity and focus on the bad things or the tough times instead.  You can keep saying, “Why me?” and focus all of your energy on feeling badly and concentrating on how life has handed you a bad hand to play.

For me, I chose to take the hard things in stride, face them, deal with them and then try to find out what I could learn from them.  In my writings and sharing my tough times with others, I am hearing from those who have either gone through the same things or have been supportive of others who have experienced the same.  And the one thing that shows up over and over is that all of them have a very positive attitude.  They tell me how much they appreciate my sharing, how it helps them, how it helps others and that I am such a wonderful example to others for the work that I am doing.  And I am sitting here saying, “Whoa!”  These people are awesome.  I know so many people who haven’t faced what I would call a tough day in their lives and they don’t have a bit of appreciation for anything. 

Then I started to wonder, was that the way that I used to be?  Is that the reason that I’ve had to have the experiences that I’ve had?  I know that the answer is no.  But, I also know myself well enough to know that if that had been the reason; I would rather go through the tough times to learn about living than to never have the tough times that resulted in my having an appreciation for the wonder of life.

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While I personally had a pretty darn good week, a lot of people around me have not faired so well.  My sister and her husband dashed off to the Netherlands as a result of the doctors finding a large tumor in his mom’s upper stomach area.  They had planned to go next month for her birthday but this emergency resulted in an immediate change of plans.

My sister-in-law is also having a tough time of it.  I called to chat with her but it was really a hard day for her so I will try again tomorrow.  But she is having many difficult days since my brother died in March.  I know how much he meant to me so I can’t even begin to imagine how hard his loss is for her.  It is so hard when you feel so powerless to do anything to help.

Several other friends have had a pretty tough week and at least for them, since I am in close proximity, I can join them, listen to what they have to say, provide any insight I may have into their situations but most importantly just share my love. 

I noticed that when I am having a tough time of it, if I just tell my husband or a friend about what I am feeling, if I just get a big hug in return, there is nothing that is more helpful.  Just to know that another person cares and is willing to give a part of themselves to us as their efforts to help and support us makes all the difference.  When not in close proximity, I always pick up the phone to find out how the other person is doing just to let them know that I care.  And they always know that extra prayers are coming their way and I am always there to listen should they choose to share their situation.

I have also noticed that there are a lot of others around me at these times that are having a tough time of it because of the current financial situation.  I really feel badly for those who are in a crunch not because of crazy spending and debt because of their having to buy stuff but those who have been doing their very best and have been struggling from paycheck to paycheck for some time.  Although I am not in a financial situation to help in a monetary way, I let them know that I am there for them and that I will do anything that I can to be there for them especially if their situation goes from bad to worse.

It seems that so many people are just feeling so helpless with regard to their personal situation and don’t know where to turn for help or encouragement.  If we just let them know that someone is there for them, that someone cares about them and loves them dearly, it does make a difference in their lives.  That is the very least that each of us can do.

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