Posts Tagged ‘goals’

Originally I had planned to announce a new program this week but it seems that I need to delay it for at least one more week. So, I have decided to address a subject that I have never completely understood nor supported.

Yes, I have made New Year’s resolutions and never was able to keep a single one of them and I do not personally know one other person who has been able to do so for any length of time. Let’s be honest. If it was as easy as setting a date to make a major change in our lives then we would never have to wait until the New Year. We could just decide that today, January 4th, we are going to lose 30 pounds or any other of a long list of personal behaviors that we want to change.

All of our behaviors have evolved over a long period of time and it is totally unrealistic to think that you can just change overnight. Any behavior has some sort of root force within ourselves that needs to be understood and addressed before we can make a major change. And in addition, there has to be some sort of motivation to make that change that can help to sustain the change over a long period of time.

Two years ago, I decided that I wanted to lose weight during 2007. I decided not to set a number. At the end of the year, I had lost 2 pounds. I made the same resolution last year. At the end of 2008, I had lost an additional 8 pounds. This results in a net loss of 10 pounds over the last two years which to me is a major accomplishment and I never had to make this goal an all-consuming focus in my life.

I was aware that there needed to be some changes made but that did not mean that I had to eliminate everything that I most enjoyed. I had to learn that I could still have my favorites, just not as frequently. By not punishing myself by eliminations but rather limiting my selection of those things that were not so good for me, I always knew that I could have those choices so they did not seem so very important anymore and they were not a focus in my daily thinking.

I am going to try that with other things in my life this year. I am going to pursue a number of new goals and I will do so at a pace that works for me. I don’t have to work on everything everyday. I may not even start on some until later in the year. I just know in what areas I wish to make changes and will definitely have made significant progress in all of those areas by the end of 2009. Now that’s a resolution that works for me!


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Wow! What a roller coaster ride we had in 2008. While I learned a great deal about myself, my husband and my family and friends, I am certainly glad that this year is about to end. But, I also understand that just because the calendar indicates that it is a brand new year that does not mean that the slate is totally wiped clean and we have a brand new beginning. However, that also does not mean that we can’t set some new goals and make some decisions about some changes that we would like to make in our lives during 2009.

I am not one to look back over the last year and talk about what has happened or how things might have been different. I lived each day to the best of my ability and if anyone feels differently about that, I don’t really care. Of course I could have made different choices along the way but I didn’t. I could have handled a number of situations differently but I didn’t. Regardless of any choices I made along the way, I learned something new and it is up to me to remember those lessons so that I don’t have to repeat them again.

So now it is on to 2009 with all of the wide-eyed expectations and hopes and dreams for the changes that I would like to create in my life. I know what they are and I don’t have to publicize them here or share them with anyone else. I have been working on some new goals already and I am looking forward to the opportunities that some of those goals may bring about.

Next week in this blog, I am going to inaugurate the year with an announcement about a brand new program that I am supporting. I hope that all of you will take the time to read about it and if you are struck about this undertaking anywhere near as much as I have been, I will look forward to your getting on board and making a big difference for so many people.

In the interim, I would like to send out my greetings to you for a marvelous and fun New Year’s Eve celebration. I also want to send along to each and everyone my wishes for the realization of all of your hopes and dreams in the New Year and my thanks to you for your help and support this past year. It is appreciated more than you will ever know.

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At work, we are in the midst of a mid-year review of our performance.  At the beginning of the year, we were required to set certain goals with regard to business objectives, development objectives and competencies.  By mid-year, we are expected to have accomplished certain of these goals and to provide specific examples regarding how we met those goals.  Then our manager will review this information and provide feedback regarding the success of our endeavors and make certain adjustments to our priorities and goals if there have been changes in our particular work situation during the first half of the year.


I think that this is a great idea.  It has worked well on the job and I am now thinking about incorporating it into my personal life.  There will be certain adjustments to applying the program in this way but I think it could work.  So as we approach the end of June and the end of the first half of this year, I started my own personal review.  Now since I did not set specific goals at the beginning of the year other than my one New Year’s resolution, I am reviewing the major happenings in retrospect.  So here goes!!


For my New Year’s resolution, I wanted to lose weight.  Here at the nearly half-way point of the year, I have lost a total of 10 lbs.  So, my evaluation of this goal is “on track”. 


Right after the beginning of the year, I learned that my cancer was back.  I met with all of the doctors that I needed to meet, had all the tests that I needed, had surgery and am currently at the midway point in my reconstruction.  Therefore, my evaluation of this goal is “moving ahead”.


Toward the end of January, I decided that I would write and post a weekly blog and have done so since the first week.  However, I was one day late in my posting last week and now I am two days behind in my posting this week.  So, my evaluation is that I am “falling behind”.


Now I understand that we can all set goals and not meeting these goals is not always a bad thing.  After all, I do remember that there are two plans for my life – my plan and God’s plan.  Now which one do I know about and which one will win out in the long run?  Certainly, I don’t know God’s plan but I do know that his plan is the one that will always win. 


So I have decided that I am going to set some new goals for the second half of 2008.  I am not sharing them with anyone because I am the only one who is in a position to evaluate whether I have ultimately met these goals or not.   And if I meet the goals that I have established, I will be delighted.  But if I fall short of any of them, I will not be sad or upset or diminished by the shortfall.  Rather, I plan to consider why I didn’t meet the goal, whether it is a goal that I feel is worth pursuing and if it is, then how can I make certain adjustments in my life to meet a particular goal.  I promise that I will provide an update at the end of the year regarding how my experiment has worked out.

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