Archive for February, 2008

I know that this is the next component that I want to tackle in this series and immediately after I created this new page, I had absolutely no idea regarding what I should write. No inspiration – nothing – nada. So when I find myself in this situation with regard to anything that I wish to accomplish, I just set it aside and come back to it at a later time when the inspiration has finally arrived.I believe that inspiration is given to us. I first learned this when I wrote the lyrics to the music on our CD “Let Life Happen”. I had never written a single lyric in my life. I had never had any desire to do so. But, one morning as I was waking up, the words were in my head so I wrote them down and within 20 minutes, I had the first lyrics completed. I had no idea what I would do with what I had but it didn’t matter.This process was repeated for some unremembered period of time with the same thing happening over and over, always on a Sunday morning, always as I was just waking and almost all of them were completed within 20 minutes. For the few where I only received partial lyrics, I would set them aside and come back to them later until the remainder of the lyrics arrived. I later realized that this was the way that my desire to do something in the way of a meaningful project with my husband had actually materialized from my prayers.

So, that was when I learned that if I wanted to accomplish something in my life, I would put that desire out into the universe and wait for the inspiration to arrive. In my own personal life, for me that is in the form of prayer where I ask my God for what I desire, in the most general terms, and wait for it to arrive. It is not always in the timeframe that I personally would like but it does always arrive at exactly at the right moment.

The most important thing to do is to act upon that inspiration when it is received. You will never accomplish anything that will create happiness for you unless you are willing to do your very best when you have an opportunity. For example, I have a project in which I have been interested for about 7 years now. Five years ago, I received an inspiration about what to do and acted upon it but nothing came to fruition. I did learn a lot from the work that I did for that effort though.

I have just recently been given another direction in which to take this project and believe me, I am acting upon it. I don’t have to push anything or anybody but I do need to get a clear picture in my mind of the direction that I need to take, formulate a plan and just do what needs to be done. Should I find that any part of the plan is not working as I go along, I will modify it as necessary. If you just listen to your instincts, I believe that we have the answers to everything inside of us.

I think that life is really very easy. I believe that we have the answers to everything inside of ourselves. I don’t mean that literally. But I believe that if I don’t know what to do or how to do something, I do know who can help or where to go for the answers that I need. And when I don’t know what to do, then I just pray for the answers to be given to me and know that they will always arrive at exactly the right moment.

The other point that I would like to share is that the worse thing that we can do to ourselves is to create timetables for our lives. How many people set out to do a 5-year or 10-year plan regarding what they plan to do or where they plan to be in life by the time that they are 30 or 40 or 50? Then when they don’t meet those deadlines, they feel that they have failed. Well, I just remember something that I heard a long time ago that went something like this – there are two plans for my life, my plan and God’s plan. Guess which one is going to win out? If I keep that in mind, then I will enjoy each day for what it brings to my life and when I receive an inspiration, I will know that it arrived at exactly the right moment when all of the other pieces of the puzzle are also in place.



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Okay, my smile experiment didn’t go exactly as I expected and I didn’t receive any feedback to incorporate into this week’s musings. However, I did have lots of fun, the presentation went extremely well and the one person that I really wanted to engage seemed to have checked out long before I got to my part. So, for now, I am moving on from this topic and will pick it up again when I feel like I have something substantial to add.In the meantime, I have had a couple of shared meals with two women who I have not seen for a very long time and I quickly recalled why I always found them to be so special. And talk about smiles!!! Both of them could light up any room.

Both of them have had their individual health issues, one with regard to having “died” in the emergency room on three occasions before they were able to stabilize her to triumph once again and the other who had breast cancer surgery three weeks ago and was her normal, sassy self when we met. No one would ever imagine what they have endured.

T.J. and I have not seen each other for 9 years. She happened to be in town on business so we just had to meet. Her heart attacks occurred last August and she has rebounded to the point that she is back to traveling for her company and providing all of her clients with not only a great knowledge but with a big smile, a very witty personality and a real zest for enjoying life.

A.M. just had her surgery so very recently and still faces daily radiation treatments for 6 ½ weeks but you would never have had an indication of this from the big smile and hugs that she had for me after almost 5 years of not seeing her. She had no complaints and no sad tales of woe but only a completely positive attitude about everything.

The one thing that they both have in common with each other and with me is that we are all really happy people. And that which brings us our happiness is our families and friends. The conversations quickly turned away from our recent physical issues to lots of laughter and tales about what great spouses and/or children and grandchildren we have. The talk went on for hours as we shared these tales along with the experiences with each other. There is no amount of money that could buy that kind of love and laughter and caring and sharing and if you have those things in your life, you have everything.

So my slightly late tribute to St. Valentine’s Day is directed to my own very special Valentine, the greatest guy in the world and my heart and soul who I treasure more and more each day. I don’t know what I would do without you and I thank God each and every day for the time that I get to spend with you.

I would also like to send my love and thanks to each and every loving person who is a part of my life – for who you are and what you mean to me. I have been so fortunate to have so many upbeat, fun, loving and caring people in my life who bring smiles to my face on a daily basis. All of our lives are filled with happiness and fun and when “situations” come our way we just face them with smiles on our faces, deal with them and get back to the business of living our lives. For me, that is exactly the way it should be.

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Did you ever notice what happens when you smile? Well, give it a try. Go ahead. Right now. Now, how do you feel? Yes, I know what you mean. When you are smiling, you feel good. All thoughts of anything bad or negative just go away. And if you keep on smiling, you just can’t feel badly.

Now while you are still smiling, think about something that normally makes you very sad or brings you to tears. Hold that smile and you just can’t go to that sad place. I just discovered this and I wanted to share it with you. I don’t know how it works but I just know that it does.

Now, let’s see what happens when you smile at someone else. Some people may look at you a little strangely but if you just keep smiling, you just might see those stern faces crack a little bit. And when you smile at your family and friends and co-workers, you can pretty much get a smile back from each person every time.

So what, you might ask? Well, those smiles back and forth and all around create a lot of positive energy. It makes you feel happy and it makes other people feel happy. So, I decided to do a little experiment.

For ten minutes, I made sure to smile at every single person with whom I came into contact. Amazingly, every single person smiled back and some even said hello. I liked this. I was having a lot of fun and I could see the difference that the smiling had made on others. Now I am wondering whether I can make this work in whatever I do.

So tomorrow morning, I have to give a presentation to more than 50 people. I haven’t had much time to work on it and even less time to practice it which makes me a little nervous. But I plan to interject a lot of smiles into my talking points and I am looking forward to seeing whether this helps me to have success. It might just be a matter of thinking that it will work or it may be that having a smile for everyone will reposition my thoughts from fear to fun. We’ll just have to see if it works and I do plan to report back to you next week.

In the meantime, I want to experiment with this a bit to see how it goes and should you choose to give it a try yourself, I would love your feedback about how it did or didn’t work for you. I think that creating an environment that is full of smiles will not only make me happy but it should make a lot of other people happy as well.

What is the worse thing that might happen? A few people might think that I am a little crazy but that doesn’t bother me. Other than that, I can’t see anything on the downside. On the upside, it makes me feel good when I smile, it is lots of fun doing so, it’s interesting to watch others’ reactions and it makes me happy to make others happy. Gee, it seems that something that is so simple can have such a great impact on creating happiness. And the bottom line is that creating happiness it what it is all about for me.

Have fun and I will report back to you the results of my experiments and if you choose to share your thoughts and experiments, I will incorporate your results into my writing. I figure that the more we learn about each other, the more success we will have in creating happy lives for ourselves.

I would love your comments.


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I had to run some errands this morning and while I was getting ready I noticed that it was raining as had been predicted. I checked the weather report and I heard that it was suppose to continue all day. Right before I was ready to depart, I was hoping that it would at least slow down to a drizzle and I looked through the blinds to find out that it had stopped completely. I immediately found myself saying “Thank you” as I put on my coat to head out. Then I started musing about that “Thank you”.I realized that it was directed to God and that somewhere along the line I had gotten into the habit of thanking God for all of the wonderful things that have come my way. In fact, in my daily prayers I find that I thank Him for everything that he has done for me (and Kirk, and family, etc.), for everything that He is doing and for everything that he will do.

I don’t remember exactly when I started doing that. I know that someone had told me to do it and at the time it felt right, so, I did it. And as I thought about it today, I remember that over the years, whenever something wonderful came my way, I felt such a high level of elation as I thanked Him for so many things. I realized that I had also slipped into it in my daily life on just about every level. For example, if someone cut me off while driving, I thanked Him for keeping me from getting into an accident. That helped me because I was using my energy in that manner rather than getting pissed off at the driver who cut me off. Or when I got some wonderful news about something, my thoughts went immediately to that every present “Thank you”. Often I actually feel like I am jumping up and down on the inside and I just can’t stop smiling.

Now as I reflect on it, I find that the more that I got into the habit of saying “Thank you” out loud or in my thoughts, I realized that the gratitude I felt would make me feel so happy. Heck, I was so grateful for so many things in my life that it seemed like I was pretty much happy all of the time. When I get bad news, I still am quite capable of getting upset and feeling sorry for myself and I do allow myself to let that out. But rather than staying in that mindset for any period of time, I find that I start to focus on all of the reasons as to why this “bad” news may not be so bad.

I find that this exercise of positive thinking works best when whatever is occurring is happening to me. I am the one who can create the reasons why a particular situation is something for which I am grateful and I am the one who can translate that gratitude into something positive that, in turn, is something that will make me create happiness for myself.
And by the same token, I wish that somehow I could find the way to show this process to others. Perhaps that is what I am hoping to accomplish by these writings.

I have so many wonderful people around me. I wish that there was a manual that I could write that would teach everyone how to create this happiness. So far, the best that I have been able to do is to live my life in a way that hopefully will serve as a good example to others in knowing that happiness is something that we can all own and to share my positive outlook with others so that they can see what a difference it makes.

Every time that I thank someone for whatever kindness they may have done for you or every time that someone appreciates what I have done for them, there is a feeling of gratitude toward one another that is indescribable. And the more that I create that gratitude in my life, the more I create happiness. Seems like a pretty interesting habit to get into if you ask me.

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